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Tuesday, December 13, 2016

It's Harder To Be The Breaker-Upper Sometimes

Anna had her first ever break up with her at the helm. And it was rough. I mean, really, really rough.

Thank God we didn't have social media when I was in high school. It's hard enough when a relationship falls apart, but to have everyone climbing on and fanning the flames all over the internet to everyone you're going to interact with (and a lot of people who have nothing to do with you but still have to offer an opinion anyway) is just brutal.

Anna did her best to soften the blow. She really cared about this person, and still does - it just wasn't the right person for her. And it's very, very hard to let go of a good person even when they're the wrong person. To hurt that person, even when you know it's best for both of you, in the long run.

My heart goes out to her. That's enough to deal with without the whole world in your business. Technology has improved our lives so dramatically, but in situations like this, it's a curse beyond belief.

We've come so far.
Sometimes, it's too far.


  1. So... I am struggling a little bit with your post today... Since you wrote about your break-up/divorce for many years on Woman's Day (and were paid to blog about it). Some of your posts called out your ex for less then stellar behavior... And I know adults and kids are not the same... but our kids watch and they learn from us...

    1. I hear what you're saying. There is a certain hypocrisy about decrying social media exposing personal issues in a public blog post. I tried my best to keep detail out of this out of respect to Anna (who has handled all of this with a maturity beyond her years). I guess my point with this is that parenting in the age of social media has an entirely different aspect than when we were growing up, and breaking up with our teenage loves. And you are absolutely right - our children see it all, especially in this day and age. Food for thought from a thoughtful reader. Thank you.