Life With A Side Of Autism

LIFE WITH A SIDE OF AUTISM

Friday, June 28, 2013

This Is So Incredibly Beautiful

Thank you Izzy, for all that you're doing. You get it. You really, really do:



Monday, June 24, 2013

Here I Am, Being Played. And I'm OK With That

Anna went to a sleepover last night, leaving me and David behind to enjoy each other's company.

We've been doing a lot of that lately. With summer here, Anna has more free time with her friends, and I'm a lot more willing to allow a mid-week sleepover (at someone else's house - I still work full time, after all). She's been taking advantage of all of it, and honestly, it feels like I haven't seen her much lately.

She rolled in suddenly this morning as I was getting ready for work, running upstairs to change her clothes. Before she went up, she asked me to find the thermometer, because she felt like she had a fever. I tested her forehead and it seemed OK to me, but you never know.

When she came back down, she didn't say a word, just opened her mouth and let me put the thermometer in. It climbed quickly...99...100...101...102...102.3...and sure enough, she had a fever.


Thursday, June 20, 2013

Welcome To The World That My Son And I Navigate, Every Single Day


Welcome to the autism spectrum, and all that it takes to support it. This is by no means a comprehensive list, but it is a great visual overview of some of the more common and most effective ways to support someone on the spectrum.


Wednesday, June 19, 2013

OK, I'll Admit It...I Just Don't Get The Hair Thing

I belong to a neighborhood Facebook board full of Moms who swap tips and information and recommendations for all kinds of stuff in our town and our school district. It's been a big resource for all kinds of stuff, and today, there was a frantic post from a Mom that read something like this:

Help! I need a recommendation for a good hairdresser! The one I used to use moved to another town and I'm at a loss!!!


Tuesday, June 18, 2013

You'll Excuse Me As I Punch A Wall Or Something

Florida teacher caught on camera as he grabs an autistic boy and throws him to the ground, pulling him up again by the hair.

I get that children on the spectrum can be difficult. As a mother of a child with autism, nobody gets that better than I do. But if you're overloaded and can't handle the situation a moment longer, you call for backup and you get out of there.


Monday, June 17, 2013

You're Always Redefining Normal When You've Got A Kid With Autism

One of the problems with being an autism Mom is that sometimes, you forget your kid does odd stuff.

You're around this kid day in and day out, and for you, these little quirks and stims and repetitive behaviors are just part of the daily routine for you. Unnoticed. Unremarkable.

Until.


Sunday, June 16, 2013

My Dad, In A Nutshell

"He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it." 

~ Clarence Budington Kelland

Happy Father's Day, Dad, from one lucky daughter.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

These Are The Moments An Autism Mom Lives For

This is the final week of school for my kids, and of course, that means backpacks jammed full of art projects, composition books and various stuff that's been hanging around their classroom all year. I've been carefully sorting through each pile daily, keeping a thing or two and chucking the rest after a review.

On Monday, David brought home an essay, written by a friend in class - a little girl named Faith. According to his teacher, all the children had to write about a friend, and she chose David.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Facebook Was Turning Me Into My Mother - And Not In A Good Way

When I was growing up, my Mother and I were members of an Evangelical Southern Baptist Church. And like any church family, they wanted to lift each other up in prayer whenever one of their members needed support. To facilitate this, the women of the church had something called "the prayer chain."

It was a list of the participatory women in the church, and the way this was supposed to work was this:


  1. Someone hears about someone needing prayer
  2. The prayer request is passed along to the first lady on the list
  3. She prays (and continues to pray daily) and passes the request on to the next person on the prayer chain.
And now that person is lifted up in prayer by the many good women of the Mountain View Baptist Church, and their families, as well. 

It's a good idea, at heart, and of course, the heart is what motivates people to pray for you in the first place, so I'm not knocking the idea.

But when you're a pre-teen and teen girl and your mother is on that prayer chain, you begin to realize that for some women in the church (your mother included), what constitutes a "prayer emergency" for them may not be in the same ballpark as it would be for you.