I have always said that as hard as it is being an Autism Mom, it's got to be harder being an autism sibling. Anna bears this all with a lot of grace, and I do my best to carve out time for just the two of us wherever I can and recognize her accomplishments (which are numerous, believe me) wherever and whenever I can.
One thing I've noticed that I seem to do a lot is introduce her second-hand. Most people are so taken with David on first meeting, he steals the spotlight right away. Or perhaps they follow one of my blogs or know someone who knows me so they already know of my journey as David's Mom and they've elevated him to junior rock star. It happens.
I usually end up shaking a hand, introducing myself, introducing David and following up with, ...and this is Anna. Or worse - "and this is David's sister, Anna."
Anna deserves to be more than an afterthought. At the same time though, she's nearly twelve and saying something like "And this is my beautiful and amazing daughter, Anna" would embarrass her beyond all words. I need to find a good compromise.
Do you find yourself struggling with this? My kids deserve equal time and attention, whenever it's plausible to give it. I don't want Anna forever feeling like she's the sideshow to David's center of attention.
How do I find a middle ground?