I am the mother of a teenage girl. Some days, I can't say that without gritting my teeth or having my lower lip tremble, and some days, I'm crowing it from the rooftops as pride swells my chest. It's a never-ending rollercoaster ride, this puberty thing, and it can take a lot of fortitude to communicate through the storm sometimes. Here are five important things I've learned about talking to my teenage daughter:
1. Perspective is everything – and she doesn't have it yet. It's very easy to sit here with decades of life behind me, and not see every little bump in the road as an insurmountable mountain. For my daughter, it's not so easy. Some of those bumps came out of nowhere and jostled her in ways she's never experienced before. They're startling and derailing and making her re-evaluate the road she's on constantly. And that's a good thing and a growing thing, but it's also a frustrating and occasionally frightening thing – for her, anyway. She may be "all about the drama" some days, and I do my best to try to help her put all that in perspective when it arises. Getting her to see the bigger picture isn't always easy (or welcomed) but it's necessary for her to develop her own sense of balance.