Life With A Side Of Autism


Thursday, September 20, 2018

Don't Kid Yourself - Verbal Abuse Is Abuse

At the gas station last night, pumping gas. Car at the pump next to me has a guy and girl sitting in it. He just finished pumping gas and their windows are down. I barely gave them a passing glance until he started yelling. He was angry. I mean very, very angry. Arms waving, screaming at her over and over again that she was stupid. Really, really "f**king stupid." She was doing her best to make herself as small as possible. And to stifle her tears because he screamed at her for those, too.

Thursday, September 6, 2018

Another Autism Worry - What About The Airport?

I'm sharing this story today, because it's so perfectly illustrates one of the many scenarios that we as autism parents - and also that our children as people with autism - have to navigate in daily life.

I've flown with David a handful of times now. When he was younger, a simple "My child has autism" was explanation enough for airport security personnel. They let me repeat their instructions to him if necessary, and while they weren't always patient, they didn't make any problems for us either. On a few occasions they would allow David to step out of the line and they'd run a wand over him and send us on our way.

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Mostly Wordless Wednesday: She Survived And Thrived

She stood ahead of me in the customer service line
Her little girl caught my eye immediately
Adorable in the extreme
Cute as a button
And Mom, unashamedly and enthusiastically playing with her
Uncaring of who was watching
Laughing and giggling and booping her nose
Waving arms in the air
Turning in circles as they did a little dance  
It took me a few moments to notice her scars
Standing out vividly on her back
Some were tangled, knotted, ugly
Some were straight, surgical, precise
Whatever it was that did this to her
Whatever it was that she had to go through to recover from it
She did it
And she is clearly reveling in every moment of her life
I wanted to high-five her
And say "Look at us!
We made it!"
I gave them a smile and a nod
Then I drove home and danced with my son

Just because

Monday, August 27, 2018

If You Won The Lottery - Where Would Your Money Go?

When I was a kid, my mom and I used to watch a lot of old movie musicals. There was one we used to watch at Christmas-time titled The Lemon Drop Kid. In one of his musical numbers, the male and female lead sing a song called "It Doesn't Cost A Dime To Dream", wherein they fantasize about how they would spend all their money if they ever someday became rich.

The lyrics still stick in my head even though it's been decades since I've seen this movie. They go something like this:

We'll have a maid
Who has a maid
Who has a maid to serve the two maids lemonade

We will spend our dough
Just like H2O
'Cause it doesn't cost a dime to dream

I'm sure we've all played this game. Every time Powerball gets huge we we put an office pool together and buy tickets. I sometimes even buy one for myself - never more than one,though. I know that buying $300 worth of lottery tickets when 46 million other people are playing doesn't really better your odds.

Thursday, August 23, 2018

Mostly Wordless Wednesday: Don't Worry, Mom

Nine years ago, he left the Intermediate unit to mainstream into kindergarten with his peers. I was terrified. I kept dropping my pen from my shaking hand all through the transitional meeting. But his teacher reached over and squeezed my hand and said, "Hey, he's gonna be just fine. He's got this." 

She was right. 

He starts high school on Monday, and as always, he's got this.

Friday, August 17, 2018

Time For Another Edition Of "What The Hell Am I Looking At?"

We made it through another week, folks, and now it's time to ask the age-old question:  what in hell am I looking at? I guarantee these pics will leave you with an odd look frozen on your face.

Japan. Of course.  

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Netflix Picks: The Tragic Beauty Of Our Vanishing Coral Reefs

This week, we're taking a trip underwater to a magical world most people have only glimpsed in a Pixar animated film. Our coral reefs are a place of wonder - and now, thanks to very real climate issues, they're becoming a watery graveyard.

This is a short film that will take your breath away and fill you with equal portions of awe and grief.