Life With A Side Of Autism


Tuesday, June 27, 2017

5 Important Things To Remember When You Talk To A Teenage Girl

I am the mother of a teenage girl. Some days, I can't say that without gritting my teeth or having my lower lip tremble, and some days, I'm crowing it from the rooftops as pride swells my chest. It's a never-ending rollercoaster ride, this puberty thing, and it can take a lot of fortitude to communicate through the storm sometimes. Here are five important things I've learned about talking to my teenage daughter:

1. Perspective is everything – and she doesn't have it yet. It's very easy to sit here with decades of life behind me, and not see every little bump in the road as an insurmountable mountain. For my daughter, it's not so easy. Some of those bumps came out of nowhere and jostled her in ways she's never experienced before. They're startling and derailing and making her re-evaluate the road she's on constantly. And that's a good thing and a growing thing, but it's also a frustrating and occasionally frightening thing – for her, anyway. She may be "all about the drama" some days, and I do my best to try to help her put all that in perspective when it arises. Getting her to see the bigger picture isn't always easy (or welcomed) but it's necessary for her to develop her own sense of balance.

Monday, June 26, 2017

Please Indulge The Writer . . .

Because I'm just going to crow a bit. The cover reveal is out for my second novel, DREAMER (which is a sequel to TRAVELER). And it's just gorgeous!

You can read all about it on my guest post at Swoon Reads, and you can even pre-order it through Amazon!

Holy cow, my second book. Still hard to believe.

Friday, June 23, 2017

It's Summer - Time To Get Your FAIL On!

Ah, summer. Full of sand and chlorine and salty, chapped body parts. So much fun, but so much that can go wrong when you mix tanning oil, frozen alcoholic drinks, and people in glorified undergarments. Let's have a look at some summer fails, shall we?

Sweetheart, you eat ice cream with your mouth.

Thursday, June 22, 2017

What Is Just Not Worth The Money To You?

That, my friends, is an expensive handbag. Like, $3500 expensive. Why?

I have friends with Coach and Louis Vuitton handbags that they shelled hundreds of dollars out for, wrapped carefully in tissue paper in sectioned areas of their closets, and all I can say is why?

A handbag is a utility. It carries your wallet, your keys, maybe a small umbrella or tissues or lipstick. If you're a mom, God only knows what it carries. But that's what it does.

If you have to go to a wedding, you get the fancy little clutch purse that goes with your dress and if you're smart you get one that will go with several dresses so you can re-use it, since weddings don't happen to your friends and family every day.

I buy my handbags at Target, or on occasion at a department store. I buy a new one when the old one breaks a strap or a zipper, or gets too worn and scuffed. And I use that purse every day, with every outfit. It's not about fashion for me. It's about utility. I cannot fathom spending more than $40 on one, either. And they wear just fine. Years. So it's not about fine workmanship, it's about status, and to me, a fancy handbag only tells me you're willing to part with your money too easy and also impressed by stuff like that.
You also won't find me shelling out money for:

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Mostly Wordless Wednesday: Mr. Sneaky Strikes Again

His latest bit of deviltry
Involves the sneaking of a spoon from the drawer
Then pressing it to my bare back
Under my shirt
As I'm cooking dinner or putting away dishes
I shriek loudly
He laughs louder
Sometimes he even dances in his glee
And today, I found a spoon in the freezer
Oh, baby boy, baby boy
It is on
It is SO on

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

10 Movies I've Never Seen (And I Own Them!)

I don't go out much.

Okay, at all. I hardly go out at all. And I missed a lot of good movies back when the kids were younger because . . . kids. And no sitter. Then they got older but I got divorced and money for movies is very tight and is usually spent on Disney and Pixar movies when I get it. 

So a lot of great movies go by, but thank goodness for Wal-Mart and Target. I'll see a movie I'd really wanted to see in the theaters on a shelf with a price tag of less than $10 (God bless the Wal-Mart $5 DVD bin!) and I snag it, if I've got the cash.

And then it sits. See, the problem is, I'm a writer. And I need my kid-free time to write. When the kids are around, they make it hard to watch and enjoy a movie (my son sings all the time and my daughter is always playing YouTube videos while we watch). Consequently, the movies don't get watched. They gather dust. Here are ten I want to watch, but am ashamed to say I haven't, despite owning the damn DVD.

That's right. I own the whole Dark Knight Trilogy. Never watched it.

Monday, June 19, 2017

"And The Children Shall Lead" - A Beautiful Expose On What Makes Us Different

I wanted to share this with you today because I think it's just amazing. The BBC-1 show CBeebies (a children's show in the UK) put together this video full of interviews with children in pairs all asking the same question: "What makes you different?"

Their answers will humble and amaze you. It's not so much what they see, but what they don't see. Watch.

The phrase "And the children shall lead" is actually not the correct version of the origin of that quote, by the way. The quote comes from the Bible, from Isaiah 11:6, which reads:

The wolf shall dwell with the lamb, and the leopard shall lie down with the young goat, and the calf and the lion and the fattened calf together; and a little child shall lead them.

Even thousands of years ago, wise men knew that the kids had it right. Differences are as superficial or as deep as you choose to make them.

A lesson we can all take to heart, courtesy of our children.