Life With A Side Of Autism


Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Being A Mom Means Knowing When To Butt The Hell Out

My daughter is a relationship.

And while she certainly doesn't tell me every little thing that goes on between the two of them, snippets leak out here and there, or I observe them together, and it's all I can do to keep my tongue behind my teeth.

It's nothing horrendous, mind you - just normal teen drama and young love angst. Neither one of them think the other loves as much as they do, neither one think they're worthy of the other's love, despite all protestations to the contrary.

Such is love.

And as a Mom who's lived and loved, the words come easily to my lips.

Monday, October 12, 2015

Resource Monday: Conversation Skills Resources For Children With Autism

Today I want to share some great resources for practicing social skills with your child. As a child on the autism spectrum, socialization is tough for my kid. He's incredibly friendly but not always appropriate and he often struggles with basic conversation. Here are some tools I've used that have helped:

A conversation menu

14 conversation skills kits for people with autism

12 activities to help your kid with social skills

 A flowchart to help your child identify friendly vs. unfriendly teasing

And finally, I'm going to give a big shout-out to the Watch Me Learn series of DVD's. A former teacher suggested these to me when my son was in pre-school and they became such a terrific tool. They involve a lot of behavior modeling and even have some catchy songs to teach things like tooth brushing and tying shoes, but the social skills repetitive practice was outstanding. My son learned about proper greetings, taking turns, showing empathy, conversing in groups, and so much more. The production quality isn't half bad for a shoestring budget, and if your kid is like mine and doesn't take to them right away, put them on in the background and just let them run. Eventually, they start soaking in and you'll notice a difference.

Once Upon A Time - Season 5, Episode 3 Recap: Arthur Is A Toadstool-Sucking Douchebag

We begin this evening in the mines with the dwarves, who get a surprise visit from Emma. She's decided to take Happy's pickaxe, and when he protests, she shares this bit of advice:

"When your name is on something, hold onto it."

And I call that a serious clue. I'm calling it for sure now, though I've had an inkling from the beginning. I don't think Emma is controlling her dagger, despite having it in her hands last episode. Someone else is calling the shots here. Remember when Hook begged her to tell him what happened last week? Her answer was "I wish I could tell you." Not "no" or "Eff you" or "I'm not going to tell you," but "I wish I could tell you." That's another little clue, I think.

Flashback now to Camelot where Regina's trying to whip up a potion to free Merlin from the tree. Snow suggests that they talk directly to Merlin via a magic toadstool she located in a book called "The Crimson Crown" which grows only in the Forest of Eternal Night. (I'm sure the forest is strictly forbidden to all students at Camelot castle, too). David pawns baby Neal off on Snow and goes with Arthur, who addresses him as 'Your Majesty'.

Helloooo? Continuity? Last week, I remarked that they introduced Snow at the royal ball as "Lady Mary Margaret" instead of Princess (or Queen) Snow White and the only explanation anyone had for that bit of inconsistency was that maybe the royals were trying to stay undercover. Obviously, that isn't the case. Anyway, enough bitching about continuity.

Friday, October 9, 2015

Fun On A Friday: Let's Take A Trip - Through Time!

Someone alerted me recently to an awesome short film about time travel that was so much fun to watch. I present: One Minute Time Machine! (note: slight NSFW language/subject matter)

Thursday, October 8, 2015

Happy Virgiversary - You've Come A Long Way, Baby

Yesterday was the anniversary of me losing my virginity.

I'm not going to say how many years, exactly, but I will tell you I was in college, and it was October 7th. I don't remember the date because it was so life-changing, or anything. I just have a weird mind that remembers obscure dates for everything. 

I can tell you I graduated high school on May 24th and college on May 12th. I can tell you an ex-boyfriend's birthday was January 2nd, and one of my tenth grade boyfriends and I celebrated our anniversary on June 6th. I don't know why this stuff sticks in just does.

So anyway. 

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Mostly Wordless Wednesday: This Should Not Have Happened

Her name was Carrie.
She was younger than me
She was a wonderful person 
A genuinely kind and decent human being
She had a good job
She had a husband and children who loved her
She had friends, many friends
And she also had breast cancer
Last Wednesday was her last day on earth
But not the last day I'll think about her
Not the last day she'll be missed
F**k cancer

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Have You Ever Tried To Drive Someone Crazy? Or Had It Done To You?

Years ago I worked for a woman I'll call Mary. 

I hated Mary. And so did a lot of other people. She was nuts. I mean, quite literally, she was nuts. The problem was, Mary - while horribly unpleasant to work with and work for - was really, really good at her job.

Not so good that they couldn't replace her with a decent human being of normal temperament, though. Preferably that didn't scream at people like a vicious harpy and didn't demand that you do tasks in bizarre, anal-retentive fashion that created four times as much work for everyone. But for some reason, the higher-ups (who didn't have to interact with this woman on a daily basis) were blissfully unaware that she was a walking nightmare to her underlings (despite the intervention of HR on several occasions and them sending her to special "constructive communication" classes...)

Anyway, we loathed Mary. We really did. And since we all hated her so, we decided to have a little fun with her. 

It was just little stuff, and nothing she could really prove. But we decided to gaslight the girl, and oh, was it effective.